From Two Locations to One
If you haven’t had your first argument yet, you can often count on moving to instigate one. This is a day that brings on a lot of stress and anxiety, so it is natural to be a little on edge and snappy. This is a huge day, and a lot of things can go wrong, so there is significant potential for irritation. Don’t worry, these tips below can help you advoid the stress.
1. Start Early
It does not matter if you are already living together and you are moving into a new place, or if you are moving from two separate locations into one for the first time, the sooner you start planning, the better off you will be. Waiting until the last minute will only make you more stressed and there is a good chance that things that need to be done will be forgotten, which will only add to the frustration.
2. Make Lists and Share Responsibility
Not only do you absolutely need to make lists of everything that needs to be done, you should designate one person to handle certain tasks. Perhaps you will call and turn on the utilities and your spouse will arrange the appointment for your cable and internet to be turned on.
If you don’t delegate responsibility, both of you will likely assume the other is taking care of something, so it doesn’t get done. This results in the pointing of fingers and a lot to blame. If there is a name beside each task then there is no question who dropped the ball.
3. Consolidate Fairly
If you are moving in together and you both have your own place, it is inevitable that you will need to get rid of some things. If you are lucky and find a home with a finished basement or a spare room, then you won’t have to do so much consolidating, but it will still need to be done on some level.
This needs to be done fairly. Don’t expect him to give up that ugly chair if you are not willing to downsize your shoe collection to share the closet. Guys, you very well may need to move the pool table out of the living room to make room for her to do her morning yoga.
It is all about compromise; this is a huge adjustment ,but if you both give equally, you will find your separate lives really do mesh well together.
4. Hire the Right Movers
Nothing can make moving day more disastrous than hiring the wrong movers. Make sure you ask what their insurance covers, and take the time to make sure they are licensed and to look up reviews. When your small apartment movers are on time, professional and efficient, you can’t imagine how much smoother and more enjoyable your day will be.